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Monday, 31 August 2015

What I Got Up To (2).....

Good morning and a very happy new week to you all. I can't believe how quickly August has gone but I am thankful I am alive and well. 

I really had a bad cold here o. :)
I couldn't wait for Friday to come to an end because out of the blues I developed a cold. I quickly sent for medication and so I hastily went home to take it. 
I didn't know they still made these. Hadn't had one in eons. N50 but works like magic.
 It knocked me out until Saturday, which thankfully was an environmental day so I had a bit of extra lie-in. Then I proceeded to making breakfast for my family and then cooking meat and making like three different types of soups. All I wanted to do afterwards was to sleep but alas, le Hubbs and I had a wedding (#NedUgo) to attend. 

Ignore my face-cap-like-gele :)

I couldn't have not gone to the wedding because the groom, who is a good friend of ours, is such a brilliant and lovely young man. We met while we were in Luton, Bedfordshire so I knew it would be a sort of mini Luton reunion. And I was right, we saw some faces we hadn't seen in years and it was really lovely reconnecting with people again. I met a fabulous blog visitor who told me herself and her hubby read my blog regularly. I was elated and flabbergasted to hear it. Thank you, thank you , thank you. Muah. :) 

 Decor on point, band on point. I still think QBand are the greatest though ;)
The wedding was absolutely beautiful and warm. The MC cracked me up with his antics and enthusiasm, everything was fun. The Governor of Ebonyi state was in attendance and there were several performances from different artists who made it all more spectacular. I'm kindda old school so the only artist I could identify with was Dammy Krane. Sue me, lol.

We left the island pretty late and even though we planned to stop over at Bar Enclave to have a bite of their legendary scrumptious turkey, we missed a turn and, given the cold and headache I had, proceeded home. I took my next dosage and zoned out till Sunday morning.
I haven't been to church much this year, much to my parents' chagrin *inserts cackle* . So I was bent on attending yesterday. Alas, I felt really wobbly even though I was all dressed. At some point, I took off my shoes and asked le Hubbs to go ahead with the kids, but then I thought, I owe it to God and myself to be in church so I joined my family. I was mighty glad I did because the service was on point. Pastor Bola Odutola of RCCG Solid Rock parish minces no words when he's preaching. People need to hear more of such easily applicable sermons in hopes of living better lives.

After service, we went off to a family friend's house for lunch and gist. Afterwards, we left off for le Hubbs' cousins' baby's ceremony. Congratulations to Lara and Lekan Otuyemi. It was a lovely family gathering.

Buki and Bukky, one of my surest pals.
 We headed home in the evening, absolutely tired. I had an early night and an even earlier Monday morning start because we had an appointment to meet up with. I was thoroughly appalled to see motorists facing oncoming traffic in their selfish haste to beat traffic and get to their destinations sooner, simply because the LASTMA team had not yet resumed. We are humans and not cattle that need to be herded all the time, so why can't we just obey laws without being nudged? What pained me the most was the fact that if any accident had happened as a result of their inconsiderate recklessness, it would have been fatal and these are corporate looking fellas in good cars and not your regular touts o. Hmmmn.

How was your weekend? :)

Let me start my Monday and allow you to get on with yours. Have a splendid week ahead.

Saturday, 29 August 2015

#DearBuki: Let's Talk About Sex o!

Hello dear blog readers, how has your day been? I have started a column tagged #DearBuki where you can send whatever issues weighing on your minds and I would do my best to proffer solutions to them by giving my opinion and showing other perspectives to them. I do a lot of these guidance and counselling offline so I felt the need to bring it on my blog. Do send me an email on and we will put heads together. Check out the first post here.

As they say, a problem shared, is a problem half solved.

Dear Buki, I am really loving this your new column. I miss reading your Let's Talk About Sex Series, what happened to that? See I have a slight issue related to that o. I'm five months pregnant with my first child and my husband has refused to make love to me because he is scared of giving our baby a dent! I have explained to him several times that this would not happen from what we have been taught in ante-natal classes and what I read online but e no gree hear word o. What can I do because this pregnancy has increased my libido (covers face shyly). I cannot understand again o.
Thank you.

Mama Pikin.


Dear Mama Pikin, congratulations on your pregnancy. I can totally understand your raging hormones and you shouldn't be denied your cravings in pregnancy, lol. Ok, so this is not an uncommon fear with some new fathers-to-be, but it is up to you and your midwife to allay his fears. You said you have read about how safe it is to have sex at this stage but did you show it to him? Telling him is one thing *especially when he can see the baby kicking and your tummy growing*, but letting him see it is another thing. You must know how to communicate this to him. 

I did write about sex in pregnancy in my post Let's Talk About Sex And Trimesters here, and the one about bonding with baby and still getting some which I wrote here

Why don't you forward the links to him and see how it goes. You can also get a close family friend who is a doctor/nurse/midwife to sit him down and have a talk with him. There's no point denying your spouse her conjugal rights just because she is carrying your child. The babies are cocooned in the womb and unless you are rocking a steel 15", would not get in the way of your activities at all. ;)

I am so guilty of slowing down on my Let's Talk About Sex series, largely because I found out my parents read my blog daily and I am still trynna come to terms with that, hehehehehe and also because I haven't been able to come up with a new and refreshing angle. So if anyone has a request about that, kindly send me  message/email about it. If you missed out on the previous posts, just search for 'Let's Talk About Sex' in my blog search engine and you will see all the posts. 

Mama Pikin, I do wish you a healthy sex life in pregnancy and beyond and I also wish you a smooth and safe delivery. Holla when baby arrives. :)

Friday, 28 August 2015

Soooooooo, Who's Going?

Remember the post I wrote here about the ridiculousness of this event and celebrating criminals? Well, today is the d-day. Tag anyone you know who would be attending. I am curious to know how it would go. ;)

Thursday, 27 August 2015

#DearBuki: I'm Jealous Of My Sister's Success!

Hello dear blog readers, how has your day been? I have started a column tagged #DearBuki where you can send whatever issues weighing on your minds and I would do my best to proffer solutions to them by giving my opinion and showing other perspectives to them. I do a lot of these guidance and counselling offline so I felt the need to bring it on my blog. Do send me an email on and we will put heads together. Check out the first post here.

As they say, a problem shared, is a problem half solved.


Dear Buki, can you please help me?I am ashamed to say that I am envious of my sister. She always has everything going fine in her life but I have to struggle and struggle. I know it is wrong to feel this way because she is very kind to me and our family members but I cannot help it.I have prayed about this bad spirit but I still detest her sometimes. What can I do?



Dear Angela, they say the first step to getting a solution to a problem is admittance that indeed there is a problem. I'm glad you have been able to see this feeling as abnormal. The way I see it, this abnormal feeling is called Envy and it never does anyone any good.

I would advise you begin to see the good in yourself and get rid of this underlying inferiority complex you're having. I also think, if you can, you need to see a psychologist to help you through these feelings. There are experienced professionals who can help you deal with this. You might also want to sit your sister down and talk to her, perhaps she's also noticed and can help you overcome this feeling. Maybe it's as a result of an incidence in both your pasts that triggers such feeling.

It is always good to be happy for others and to be contented with what you have even as you strive to be a better. It gives you peace of mind and puts you in a good place and brings positive energies around you. Be #AllHeartsAlways.

I wish you peace.

Wednesday, 26 August 2015


Imoh Ekpo
Hello dear people, please nominate my friend's former airtel colleague, IMOH EKPO who has Hepatitis C & Kidney failure, for Airtel touching lives programme by following this link: 

Below are the needed information to make your vote count:

Road 2, Unit 10, Federal housing estate, Uyo. PHONE NO -08037898169    

He has Hepatitis C& Kidney failure and requires financial support to carry out Kidney transplant in India. 

REGISTRATION ENDS TOMORROW 27TH AUGUST!!! The more the nominations, the greater his chances of being selected.

Please treat as urgent. God bless you!!!

You can also send in your financial contributions to his wife's account- 3064439313 Victoria Imoh Ekpo, First Bank.

For more information, pls call his wife on 08037898169.

Every vote and amount counts!! Thank you.


Can You Identify This Man?

I found this picture on Twitter calling for the public to help find the family or friends of this young man who was found abandoned and then taken to a hospital.

The National Hospital, Abuja issued the press release below:

" A man of about 27 years old whose picture is attached, was found in the bush by a Police officer and was taken to Nyanya General Hospital and then referred to National Hospital, Abuja on 22nd August, 2015. The Management is appealing to any member of the public whose relation has not been seen since the aforementioned date, to please come to the Trauma Centre, Abuja for identification and further necessary action. "

Tayo Haastrup PhD
Spokesperson, National Hospital, Abuja
August 26, 2015


Roads fall apart-I don't know if this expression is correct. Maybe I should have said things fall apart but it wouldn't capture the true state of things around here. Moreover, I'm sure if you first see things fall apart you will probably start thinking of Chinua Achebe's novel and might take some time getting back your line of thoughts to the issue on ground and I wouldn't like to risk that. The state of roads and traffic situation in Aba is big enough to occupy anyone's mind; adding anything extra might be mind blowing.

The  governor for now operates from Aba. Whatever his reasons are, I respect that, at least this ensures that he has a first hand experience of what the roads and traffic situation are. Let me paint a picture of the traffic situation in the City. The traffic starts from 6:45am and continues till afternoon and sometimes till very late in the especially on the Aba-Owerri Road,which is about the only route motorable in Aba and also the only one that leads outside the city. It is also this road that the governor plies on his way to work . The traffic situation is not as a result of increase in vehicular number. Actually, the major road users are Keke and bus drivers because people going to work don't deem it necessary going to the work with their cars these days while the rest of the wise ones simply elongate the lifespan of their cars by parking it at home. Exposing your car to Aba roads is dangerous to the health of the car and the health of the driver. Common sense. Most Aba car owners have learnt to apply that in their lives. The potholes are so bad that car repair shops are the most visited places in the city. The pothole can even damage a woman's womb- jokes apart.

In view of this, we can conclude that my governor is a victim of the terrible traffic situation we experience in Aba. The much that can happen to ease the situation for him is that his security details will come down from their cars and force other road users to one side of the already jammed road to create a temporary thoroughfare for his entourage to pass. This also takes a lot of time because the traffic usually stretches over a very long distance.

In all, he sees and experiences firsthand what people are passing through in the city and yet not much is being done to alleviate the situation. When we heard our governor commissioned some roads on his first day at work, it gave me serious concern. Whatever that was meant to achieve, it painted a picture of a man who is concerned with the most pressing need of his people. What happened to that man and that heart when after three months, except cleaning the gutters in Aba-Owerri road and some parts of brass road and dumping the dirt by the roadside for the people to see that the governor is cleaning the gutters and the recent widening of the gutters in some parts of Aba-Owerri road, nothing more has been done. Moreover, clearing the gutters is not enough. They will soon close up if appropriate measures are not taken to sensitize people on the need to properly dispose wastes. The  touts used to harass bus drivers can also be used to catch defaulters. When can we finally have a government that sincerely thinks about the people?

When you were taking up leadership Sir, you knew Aba roads are the Aba man's nightmare. Fixing them is fixing his business and every of his activities. A ten minutes ride now takes us one hour and sometimes more. A distance we pay forty or fifty Naira for, we now pay hundred Naira. You can hardly make it on time to any appointment. Going out these days  is a trauma. Sometimes, I ask myself if it's a bad thing to live in Aba. I didn't include pictures  of the road because if I did, you will probably not eat the rest of the day-the sights are irritating. Luckily for me, I live in an area that's a bit clean but whenever I have to go out, I usually close my eyes as I sit in the Keke. Those terrible sights disturb me a lot. What is the fate of those that cannot afford to pay for Keke drop? Our Keke drivers are real heroes. You need to see them wading through the water and hitting their machines on the very deep potholes. They should be conscripted into the Nigeria Army and that, without much training. Aba road has completed that assignment. With the kind of anger and frustration they exude, Boko Haram will soon be history.

Businesses are suffering. Which road will people take to come to buy from your shop? Bus and Keke drivers spend more to keep their automobiles running on the very bad roads: who pays for it-the masses. Yet, the government makes money from this people's sweat every day. They buy daily tickets without which they cannot carry people. Actually, the cost of the ticket has been increased by the present administration. I heard there was a new ticket that was recently introduced called "loading and offloading." So, you see drivers work with so much frustration. They drive passengers anyhow. They drop us anywhere. (People endure all these because if not for these crazy drivers, you either stay at home and miss important engagements or trek the dreadful roads. Necessary inconvenience you can rightly call them.) No one checks all these. The only thing the government does is to place their touts in every nook and cranny of the city to checkmate drivers who are working without a ticket. If a driver is caught, it's usually a terrible experience for him.

Dear governor, what seems to be the problem?  Is it that the Barber doesn't know how to cut or is it the clipper that is blunt?  Is it money? We understand that there is no money in the state, but what about the money generated internally from the state on a daily basis-from bus drivers, Keke drivers, shop owners in the streets and in the various numerous markets in the city who pay different levies? Cant that be used to begin? Is it the will? Is  the pain people are going not enough to spur you to action?

Is anyone thinking about the future of this state? At this rate, what becomes of her in the next twenty years? The leaders have succeeded in making the state unattractive to graduates. All of them relocate upon graduation meanwhile; it is the presence of good heads that develops a city. Aba has always been a business city and will always be. But what has her millionaires done for her except make more and more from her each day? What have they given back to the city? Have the quality of the lives of people been improved by their enterprises?  People in Aba drink so much because that's the only form of recreation they know. Who will bring the cinemas, the parks, the beautiful gardens, the shopping malls, the online shopping malls and all those nice things people in developed cities enjoy if not these good heads the city keeps spitting out? Who will introduce the humane and efficient services people in other cities enjoy? What is Aba mans business with customer care? Isnt that the kind of Aba the business man has fashioned for himself? The kind of Aba he thrives in? What is the future of a city where over 20% of her young men are touts?  It's about time our leaders become responsible to the plight of the people and the future of this state. Its about time they began to do something with the trust weve given them through our votes or not.

Dear Governor, the responsibility you have assumed is huge.( In fact, the only state that is as bad as our Abia is Bayelsa.) We all understand the enormity of your responsibility. You also did and still do. When you elected to take up leadership of the state, you knew you were inheriting a lot of garbage and years of so much neglect. So, get about it. We all saw your campaign bill boards and adverts where you were seen clearing dirt off the streets of Aba-heaven at last! Get about it already. The state is tired. The people are tired. Do what you can while you can. Four years is not such a long time but you can make every day count.

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